This article originally appeared on WorldLifestyle.com.
Texting has taken on an ominous role when it comes to communicating in relationships. Believe it or not though, research suggests it has actually peaked! Not because we’ve grown tired of texting. It’s because people are craving better forms. Instant messaging apps like WhatsApp and SnapChat are taking over and since this mode of communication is here to stay I thought I’d share some best practices with you to avoid dating disasters.
For some people texting allows them to push the envelope because they’re able to say things over text that they might not otherwise be comfortable saying in person. For many people of these people it’s easier to express their thoughts and feelings over text than it is face-to-face.
Texting is an accelerant to emotional and physical intimacy. When you express your thoughts, feelings and desires over text it actually strengthens the connection between two people just as it would if it were expressed verbally. Mind sharing makes people more comfortable with each other, but it can also make people uncomfortable with each other as well. Studies show, however, that couples who frequently text each other are more likely to jump into bed than those who only use text when necessary.
Texting can be fine and fun, but you might want to consider these few rules of engagement first:
1. Be as careful about who you sext as you are about who you sleep with. Anyone can take a screenshot and attachments can be saved, altered and shared with or without your permission.
2. Only sext with protection. If you do feel the need to send a scandalous photo use an ephemeral messaging app that disposes of it automatically.
3. Address people by their name so they don’t think you’re mass texting.
4. Never send more than three texts in a row before getting a response.
5. Don’t text and expect. If you find yourself waiting for a response you will grow anxious and aggravated very quickly.
Texting is flirty and fun but it does not substitute a real face-to-face conversation. Use it sparingly.
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